As we gather to honor Ryan’s memory and to support one another in grieving a death that is the hardest death to grieve: death that is chosen. Where there is pain and confusion, despair and doubt, we long for the end to suffering. For Ryan, life no longer has any choices but one. The inner pain was too great – pain that he had contained within himself for years, pain that often lashed out in anger, mostly at himself. Ryan chose to end the suffering for himself. The mind was exhausted, the heart frightened, and the end taken. No matter how stalked by pain, Ryan’s life also had its moments of delight and happiness, caring and friendship, sharing and love.
Ryan Gean Clover was born July 13, 1987 in St. Croix Falls, Wisconsin. He attended Unity School in Balsam Lake, WI and attended high school in Cambridge, MN. Ryan enjoyed 4-wheeling, riding dirt bikes and working on cars. He was a good spirit and will be greatly missed.
Ryan died September 8, 2015 at the age of 28 years. He was preceded in death by his uncle, Michael Meissner; aunts, Tanja Monio and Marcy Kurtz cousin Christopher and many other relatives.
Ryan will be lovingly remembered by his mother, Shelley (Ron) Putz; father, Danny (Becky) Clover; daughter, Alexis Marie Clover; sister, Jessica (Will) Clover, girlfriend, Melissa Petranek and their yet to be born child; grandparents, Doloris Kolodziejski, Charles Meissner, Karen Clover and Eugene (Marsha) Clover; nieces and nephews, Lucas, Serenity, Willie and Kaylie; several cousins, and many other relatives and friends.